Wednesday, July 15, 2015

ALL FALL DOWN by Jennifer Weiner


I found a used copy of All Fall Down by Jennifer Weiner in a Starbucks cafe in Point Loma in the newspaper rack. It was still in good condition, and I looked around for someone who might've placed it there on purpose. An old man smiled at me from his seat. Maybe he does this as a hobby, I thought, smiling back at him as I slipped the book into my purse.

Am I really going to read this?

Does my bookshelf need another book?

My paralegal program started recently, and on top of that, I started my new job as case assistant for one of the largest local firms in San Diego. I flipped through the book during the weekend as I printed out stuff from the computer. Before I knew it, I was halfway done. And a little after that, I was done.

All Fall Down is about an educated, upper-middle class mommy blogger who lives a stressful life trying to balance between taking care of her sensitive daughter, their finances (she has to write professionally to make ends meet for the family), her distant husband, and her aging father with Alzheimer's. To placate her stressful mind, she takes prescription painkillers. But soon, the calming and soothing effect of those pills becomes the only reason she is able to get up in the morning.

What makes this book good is that it deals with real problems and misconceptions that people have towards drug addiction. We all have this horrid image of the homeless and haggard low-income drug addict, but drug addiction goes past socio-economic barriers, as we can see in Jennifer Weiner's novel, All Fall Down.

My plan for this copy is to pass it onto the next person in a public place.

My rating: 5/5 stars





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Wednesday, June 24, 2015

THE SCHOOL FOR GOOD AND EVIL by Soman Chainani


The School for Good and Evil
by Soman Chainani
(Book 1)

Retellings of classic fairy tales have a history as long as gossip itself, and continue to be popular in pop culture. Among retellings is Soman Chainani's debut novel, The School for Good and Evil, which debuted on the New York Times bestseller list. In this hilarious novel, Chainani takes the generic, quasi-medieval setting of fairy tales and reinvents it to subvert countless fairy tale tropes while telling a story about friendship between two girls. 

Sophie and Agatha live in the village of Gavaldon, a generic fairy tale-esque village in the middle of some woods. Every year, on the eleventh night of the eleventh month, two children disappear. The legends say that a School Master kidnaps the children and takes them into a school where one of them learns Good and the other learns Evil. The children would eventually graduate into fairy tales as a hero and a villain. 

Sophie, the most beautiful girl in the village, has spent most of her life doing "good" deeds and primping herself to prepare to be kidnapped into the School for Good. Agatha, on the other hand, lives by a graveyard, wears black frocks, has a pet cat - looks as if she's perfect for the School for Evil.

However, when the kidnapping happens, the girls find that their purported paths have been switched - Agatha is a student of the School for Good while Sophie is thrown into the School for Evil. 

The School for Good and Evil challenges a lot of tropes introduced by fairy tales that a lot of us grow up accepting, such as that attributes such as ugliness, the color black, and dirtiness = evil, while attractiveness, the color white (and other pastels), and purity (pristine surroundings, pure intentions) = good

Chainani also questions the ideology of "goodness" and also our subjective connotations of what it means to "hurt" or "help" someone, and whether it's really so good to "give" something. The five rules that separate Good from Evil are:
  1. The Evil attack. The Good defend. 
  2. The Evil punish. The Good forgive. 
  3. The Evil hurt. The Good help. 
  4. The Evil take. The Good give. 
  5. The Evil hate. The Good love. (page 157)
Take Rule 4 and apply it to the fate of Good animals who "help" Princesses:
"Animals love to help princesses for so many reasons!" said Princess Uma, stopping at the water's edge. "Because we sing pretty songs, because we give them shelter in the scary Woods, because they only wish they could be as beautiful and beloved as--"

"Wait."

Uma and the girls turned. Agatha held up the storybook's last page--a painting of the stag ripped to pieces by monsters as the princess escaped.

"How is that a happy ending?"

"If you aren't good enough to be a princess, then you're honored to die for one, of course," Uma smiled, as if she would learn this lesson soon enough. (page 130)

A lot of distinguishing between good and evil starts with the appearance, but the book also addresses deception (when a Good or Evil person is disguised as the other). Agatha struggles between the School's institutionally-enforced dichotomy between Good and Evil because she was placed in the School of Good, but her appearance and reclusive outward demeanor makes her appear as if she belongs with the School of Evil: 
"What if my face is Evil?"

Her teacher flinched at her tone.

"I'm far from home, I I've lost my only friend, everyone here hates me, and all I want is a way to find some kind of happy ending," Agatha said, red-hot. "But you can't even tell me the truth. My ending is not about what Good I do or what's inside me. It's about how I look." Spit flew out of her mouth.

"I never even had a chance." (page 372)
Despite this book being full of hilarious moments (mostly in which Sophie attempts to do Good deeds at school), it also contains some sincere moments of growth for Agatha's character, in which she emerges from beneath Sophie's flamboyant shadow and paves her own destiny. As her confidence increases, Agatha transforms from the reluctant sidekick to her own heroine, and also realizes that there are things in-between Good and Evil (page 423). 

Overall, this book helped me develop an appreciation for fairy tale villains for their flair and passion. With their contrasting personalities, Sophie and Agatha complement each other well as friends (and maybe frenemies). I absolutely loved the clever reinvention and subversion of fairy tale tropes in The School for Good and Evil by Soman Chainani. 

I look forward to reading the second book, A World Without Princes, which actually came out this April. The third book, The Last Ever After, will be released on July 21, 2015. 

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Tuesday, June 23, 2015

NORA AND KETTLE by Lauren Nicolle Taylor


Nora and Kettle
by Lauren Nicolle Taylor
Expected Publication: February 29, 2016

If you haven’t read anything by Lauren Nicolle Taylor, you’re in for a real treat: Nora and Kettle is an upcoming novel by Lauren Nicolle Taylor, international bestselling author of The Woodlands. Set in the years after World War II, Nora and Kettle features a story about friendship and love between the daughter of a civil rights lawyer and a mixed-race Japanese-American orphan. 

The first few pages of Nora and Kettle whisked me away into the sheltered but troubled life of Nora, daughter of a prestigious civil rights attorney. Living in a large home with her affluent family, Nora has learned to hide her bruises and stay quiet, mostly for the sake of keeping her little sister safe from their violent father. 

The story soon shifts to the perspective of Kettle, a young man who goes out of his way to make life livable for his family, a group of Nisei orphans (“Lost Children”) who were taken from orphanages and placed into internment camps. 

What do Nora and Kettle have in common? They are protective of those they love, and would sacrifice much to make sure that their loved ones are safe. Nora bravely endures her father’s beatings to make sure her sister is safe, while Kettle fights to work risky jobs in the mines in order to feed his family of fellow homeless children. On the surface, they live very different lives, but they also have a lot in common. 

The story flows seamlessly between the perspectives of Nora and Kettle. I found myself attempting to piece together different facts and details to get a hold of the big picture or the “real deal” of a character.The revelations are satisfying and add layers of complexity to characters and their motivations. Hints introduced throughout the book come together to reveal important discoveries later on in the story--wish I could say but it’d be too spoilery. Take my word on this!
A sketch of Nora and Kettle, by Lauren Nicolle Taylor
Nora and Kettle left me reeling with emotions--happy ones, angry ones, and also sad ones. I dreamed along with Nora, simmered with anger at her father’s violence and hypocrisy, and cheered for both Nora and Kettle. I found myself identifying with both characters’ struggles, dreams, and fears. 

The emotional impact of this novel also stems from Lauren Nicolle Taylor’s signature style of poetic prose. Her vivid writing sweeps me away into the secret realms of her characters’ minds and hearts, where they are free to express how they truly feel. This is especially true for Nora, whose innerworld is dreamy and mobile compared to her oppressive situation at home, where she has to hide her true thoughts from her overbearing father. 
"A Frankie and Kettle Moment" by Lauren Nicolle Taylor
Overall, this is a poetically written novel about two strong-willed characters who will do whatever they can to ensure the safety of the people they love. The post-World War II setting and Kettle’s background illuminates a segment of history that is often overlooked: the removal of children from orphanages and their subsequent placement into internment camps for having any sort of Japanese ancestry. Nora and Kettle are likable characters who drive the plot forward and I find myself investing deeply in their struggles. Nora and Kettle is an exhilarating read and I highly recommend it.

Expected Publication Date for Nora and Kettle: February 26, 2016

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Thursday, May 21, 2015

DIARY OF A JOB SEARCH: One Man's Journey from Unemployment to a New Career by Tim Johnston


Diary of a Job Search: One Man's Journey from Unemployment to a New Career
by Tim Johnston

Ever read an old manual? My dad owned a lot of old textbooks from the 1970s and 1980s, and as a kid, I'd flip through them whenever I was bored. One of the books was a guide on how to save money on your car, and the author spoke about driving beneath the speed limit, 55 mph. "Wow, cars were slow back then," the ten-year-old me would remark.

The technology of job hunting, while it is a constant phenomenon and necessity, is constantly changing, especially in the Internet Age. This book, like so many others, was a product of its time, and it reveals a lot of insight into the anxious mindset of the post-9/11 American job hunter.

Perhaps the economic chaos after 9/11 was the beginning of the end to the idea of one stable, lifelong career, the expectation that the same company will take care of its employees for life. The beginning of job hunting and company-hopping as employees realized that they were on their own in terms of securing their financial future. Along with new circumstances comes a new "game", new rules, and new tools to use in the job hunt. It's the reason Richard Bolle comes out with a new edition of What Color Is Your Parachute? every year (A thorough book of advice on the job hunting process. I recommend it).

Diary of a Job Search by Tim Johnston goes back to the pre-LinkedIn days of 2003. Tim the Job Hunter's journey is fun (and occasionally hilarious) to read.

I'd like to compare the experience of reading this to staring into a time capsule of what it was like to search for jobs around the time the Internet was starting to take off in popularity. Lots of references were made to the 9/11 attacks and their catastrophic effects on the job market. Tim regarded the use of the pre-LinkedIn Internet for job hunting with skepticism, and partly because job sites were already being spammed with resumes and sketchy sales opportunities.

Some lessons Tim learned along the way remain relevant in 2015: "feeding and watering" your network, interviews, negotiating one's salary, being likable/showing value in an interview, and being persistent in the job search despite the challenges of morale and unemployment.

I hope Tim is doing well today. He was a likable job hunting protagonist in this book, and even though our life circumstances are completely different, it was easy to identify with him and his concerns and aspirations.

My rating: 5/5 stars by 2003 standards





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Friday, May 15, 2015

YES PLEASE by Amy Poehler


Yes Please is Amy Poehler's book of all-things-Poehler: memoirs, opinion essays, thoughts, ideas, lists, and the occasional haiku poem. Amy Poehler's voice strikes me as sincere, intelligent, witty, and engaging. She is self-conscious of her role as an entertainer who is creating a book about herself, and also as a white woman who grew up in a working class.

Poehler's career has survived at least two wars and the 9/11 attacks. Amy Poehler stated that after the September 11, 2001 attacks, "It felt like America might not ever smile, never mind laugh, again" (135). But it did. I remember Amy Poehler's hilarious skits with Tina Fey from around 2008 during the presidential campaign.

If Yes Please reflects Amy Poehler as a person and comedian, then the book has given me a lot of respect for her because she shares the guilt she felt over the way she'd indignantly handled the negative reaction over a skit making fun of a girl with cerebral palsy. She lived with this guilt for years until she finally gathered the courage to apologize. I thought it was brave of her to come out and admit the crummy way in which she'd reacted to the backlash.

In addition to stories about her way to becoming the SNL star that she is now, Amy Poehler shares moments from her childhood. One of my favorite parts is the section about her "plain" looks:

"I had already made a decision early on that I would be a plain girl with tons of personality, and accepting it made everything a lot easier. If you are lucky, there is a moment in your life when you have some say as to what your currency is going to be. I decided early on it was not going to be my looks" (20).

Amy Poehler also points out the double standards that mothers and teenagers are held up to. With mothers, stay-at-home-moms and working mothers are made to feel bad for either not working or for not spending enough time with their children. For teenagers, girls straddle the line between "virgin" and "slut", a game that no one can ever truly win. Amy points out all of these frustrating standards with a light and humorous tone, without sounding preachy or angry.

Her life motto: "Good for you, not for me."

The layout of Yes Please by Amy Poehler is beautiful, consisting of splash pages between each chapter with short and snappy lines, such as "Do whatever you like," and "Short people do not like to be picked up". I also enjoyed looking at photos of her past, which are sprinkled throughout the book but do not dominate the discourse.

My rating: 5/5

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Tuesday, May 12, 2015

The 10 Best Books of May 2015

Uprooted by Naomi Novik

Selected from nominations from library staff across the country (LibraryReads), here are the top 10 books that librarians are thrilled about sharing in May 2015:

1. Uprooted by Naomi Novik - In this awesome book by the author of the Temeraire novels, a young girl is uprooted from her family and thrown into a world of magic and war. In order to protect her home and village, Agnieszka must help the Dragon wizard fight against the corrupting forces of The Wood. Naomi Novik draws from folklore and legends to create a new take on old stories. (Release: 5/19/2015)

2. A Court of Thorns and Roses by Sarah J. Maas - A new book and series by the author of Throne of Glass, A Court of Thorns and Roses borrows elements from an old fairy tail: the beauty and the beast. A Court of Thorns and Roses is the first book in Sarah J. Maas's new series about a young huntress who kills a wolf and gets kidnapped by a beast in the woods. The beast turns out to be one of the immortal and powerful faeries in the land, and he wants retribution for the wolf that she killed. As prisoner, Feyre comes to fall in love with the beast, but soon must figure out a way to defeat the shadow that threatens to destroy the beast's land. (Release: 5/5/2015)

3. A God in Ruins by Kate Atkinson - This is a companion book to Kate Atkinson's Life After Life, so you don't have to read Life After Life to enjoy A God in Runs. In Life After Life, Ursula Todd found himself reliving the events of last century again and again. In A God in Ruins, Ursula's younger brother Teddy, a poet and bomber pilot, husband and father, navigates the dangers of the 20th century as he comes of age. (Release: 5/5/2015)

4. A Water Knife by Paolo Bacigalupi - As a southern California in the midst of a very long drought, Paolo Bacigalupi's dystopian thriller strikes true in the center of my fears. In the American Southwest, Nevada, Arizona, and California fight over the remaining shares of water for the Colorado River. (Release: 5/26/2015)

5. The Knockoff by Lucy Sykes and Jo Piazza - An outrageously stylish, wickedly funny novel of fashion in the digital age, Imogen Tate, editor in chief of Glossy magazine, finds her twenty-something former assistant Eve Morton plotting to knock Imogen off her pedestal, take over her job, and reduce the magazine, famous for its lavish 768-page September issue, into an app. (Release: 5/19/2015)

6. Early Warning by Jane Smiley - This second installment of Jane Smiley's trilogy brings the journey of a remarkable family with roots in the Iowa heartland into mid-century America. Early Warning opens in 1953 with the Langdon family at a crossroads. Their stalwart patriarch, Walter, who with his wife, Rosanna, sustained their farm for three decades, has suddenly died, leaving their five children, now adults, looking to the future. Only one will remain in Iowa to work the land, while the others scatter to Washington, D.C., California, and everywhere in between. As the country moves out of post–World War II optimism through the darker landscape of the Cold War and the social and sexual revolutions of the 1960s and ’70s, and then into the unprecedented wealth—for some—of the early 1980s, the Langdon children each follow a different path in a rapidly changing world. (Release: 4/28/2015)

7. Seveneves by Neal Stephenson - A thought-provoking science fiction epic in which a catastrophic event ushers in the Earth's impending doom. Nations around the world unite to devise an ambitious plan to ensure the survival of humanity far beyond our atmosphere, in outer space. The complexities and unpredictability of human nature coupled with unforeseen challenges and dangers threaten the intrepid pioneers, until only a handful of survivors remain. Five thousand years later, their progeny—seven distinct races now three billion strong—embark on yet another journey into the unknown . . . to an alien world utterly transformed by cataclysm and time: Earth. (Release: 5/19/2015)

8. The Ghost Fields by Elly Griffiths - Book 7 of the Ruth Galloway mystery series. The chilling discovery of a downed World War II plane with a body inside leads Ruth and DCI Nelson to uncover a wealthy family’s secrets. (Release: 5/19/2015)

9. Our Souls at Night by Kent Haruf - A bittersweet yet inspiring story of a man and a woman who, in old age, come together to wrestle with the events of their lives and their hopes for the imminent future.
In Holt, Colorado, Addie Moore pays an unexpected visit to a neighbor, Louis Waters. Her husband died years ago, as did his wife, and in such a small town they naturally have known of each other for decades; in fact, Addie was quite fond of Louis’s wife. His daughter lives hours away in Colorado Springs, her son even farther away in Grand Junction, and Addie and Louis have long been living alone in houses now empty of family, the nights so terribly lonely, especially with no one to talk with. (Release: 5/26/2015)

10. Little Black Lies - Sharon Bolton - In such a small community as the Falkland Islands, a missing child is unheard of. When another child goes missing, and then a third, it's no longer possible to believe that their deaths were accidental, and the villagers must admit that there is a murderer among them. And suddenly, in this wild and beautiful place that generations have called home, no one feels safe and the hysteria begins to rise. But three islanders--Catrin, her childhood best friend, Rachel, and her ex-lover Callum--are hiding terrible secrets. And they have two things in common: all three of them are grieving, and none of them trust anyone, not even themselves. (Release: 5/19/2015)

Thanks for reading! Which titles are you interested in? Is there a title you think that should make this list?

Thursday, May 7, 2015

DYING TO FORGET by Trish Marie Dawson (The Station #1)


Dying to Forget
by Trish Marie Dawson
The Station Series, #1

Dying to Forget by Trish Marie Dawson puts a spin on the common religious notion that people who commit suicide go straight to hell. Two major tragedies befall Piper Willow, a girl in high school. The third results in her death.

Piper finds herself in a clean, white place - a Station for people like her who have committed suicide, a chance for redemption.

In order to redeem herself and possibly go to a better place, Piper and her friends in the afterlife become Volunteers who go back to Earth to reside in the minds of individuals who are contemplating suicide, in order to persuade them to choose life over death.

Old vs. New Cover

Dying to Forget Covers: Old (left) and New (right)
I love the new cover so much more than the old one. While the new one is generic and vanilla, with a closeup of an attractive model, it doesn't turn me off like the old one does. What does it tell me about the story? Nothing, except that the protagonist is a white female. However, it doesn't make me go, "Eww."

First thoughts about the old one: Eww, sullen teenager in an unflattering pose. Why is she squatting as if she's about to drop a deuce, and why is her crotch covered by white fabric? The model looks like she has an attitude, which is not representative of Piper at all. Piper lacks that edge. The background is visually interesting though.

My Thoughts

I thought it was very cool that Trish Marie Dawson chose to tackle the widespread idea of the suicide victim's condemnation to hell by giving the victims a chance to redeem themselves in an in-between Station. I laughed at the concept of the bureaucratic heaven (The afterlife is a big business! Why wouldn't it have a huge bureaucracy?).

Nigel was an endearing character, and I was glad that Piper was able to meet such a nurturing fellow. I thought Nigel was God at first, but how often do you get to meet the CEO in a densely bureaucratic company? I feel like there is more to him than meets the eye - he seems to play a larger role in the afterlife bureaucracy than he lets on.

It took me a chapter to warm up to Piper, mostly because I found her naive obsession over Jock Guy annoying. Fortunately, that only lasted a chapter. The ending comes in the form of a huge cliffhanger - I saw it coming from the setup earlier in the novel, but I welcome this direction in the plot because I want to find out what happens.

The Audiobook Experience

I listened to Dying to Forget by Trish Marie Dawson on Audible, narrated by Kimberly Woods.

Kimberly Woods' voice comes across as very adolescent, kind of breathy. It took a while to get used to (especially during the whole Naive Piper stage), but by a third of the book in, I was enjoying her narration, and I can't imagine this book or Piper without Kimberly Woods' voice. I hope Kimberly Woods narrates the next books in The Station Series, because I can't imagine Piper with a different voice.

Woods' vocal rendition of Piper makes me picture Beth Greene from The Walking Dead (possibly because the similarities in speech patterns)and as a result, I pictured Beth as Piper rather than either of the cover models. Here's a picture of lovely Beth:
Beth Greene from The Walking Dead, played by Emily Kinney
Woods' high voice is perfect for embodying a teenager but not so much for old men. I couldn't tell Nigel's voice apart from Sloan's step-dad's voice. But they were relatively minor characters, so that was okay. And their emotions were still conveyed well. 

This book translated well into audiobook format. I played this in my car during morning and evening commute and looked forward to hearing more about Piper's afterlife each time.

My rating:

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Wednesday, May 6, 2015

Audiobook: The Spine of the World by R.A. Salvatore (Drizzt #12)

The Spine of the World
by R.A. Salvatore
(Paths of Darkness #2; Legend of Drizzt #12)

Before I read this book, I thought Wulfgar was a boring side character, maybe a copy of Conan the Barbarian, or the third corner to the love triangle between himself, Catti-Brie, and Drizzt. The Spine of the World changed my mind about Wulfgar - this book is about his path to redemption after being torn up by Errtu in more ways than one. The Spine of the World by R.A. Salvatore has become one of my favorite books in the Legend of Drizzt series.

The New Wulfgar: Dealing with Trauma

Wulfgar has returned from the clutches of Errtu, but he experiences a cognitive dissonance: his loved ones (Drizzt, Catti-Brie, Bruenor, and others) see him as the way he was, before being taken by Errtu and tortured for years. They expect him to be the same old Wulfgar that they once knew. That he once knew. However, Wulfgar can't identify with the man he once was, so he sets off on his own and gets a dead-end job as a bouncer in a bar. He drowns his fears, anxieties, and sorrows in alcohol funded by his new career as a bar bouncer.  He also makes friends with a rogue named Morik. 

There's a difference between understanding his angst on a distant, rational level, and experiencing the same angst in the form of surprise-PTSD-like flashbacks. Finally, I was able to connect to Wulfgar in a way that I hadn't been able to throughout the series - not only through his trauma, but in his redemption. Knowing that deep down, beneath the fear, was a person with good intentions. 

Meralda: Stuck in a Nasty Love Triangle

My initial reaction to the parallel story line about Meralda was one of perplexity. "Who the heck are these people?" I wondered. "Why should I care about them, and how will their paths intersect with that of Wulfgar's?" Meralda is a beautiful young peasant who is forced, by circumstances, to humor and marry a local lord for the sake of her mother, who is dying from what seems to be cancer. She loves another - Jaka, a handsome, local boy with a head of beautiful curls. 

I thought I knew where this was going. Lord Faringal came across as repulsive and moronic, with his odes of love to Meralda when he hadn't even spoken to her. "Oh," I figured. "Lord Faringal is the gross nobleman and Jaka is the poor lover." I rooted for the poor guy until I realized Jaka was a jackass. Meralda is trapped between two men, who are competing for different reasons: love (Faringal) and ego (Jaka). Ultimately, this parallel story turned out to be really good--I wanted it to be its own separate novel with Meralda as its heroine! 

Conclusion

The Spine of the World by R.A. Salvatore is about Wulfgar not being able to reconcile his old self (with Drizzt and friends) with his new self (post-Errtu), and fighting against traumas of the past. He tries to run from the past, but ultimately realizes that there is no way to deal with his emotions but to confront them. Meralda's parallel story was really cool too - I would love for her character to show up in more Forgotten Realms books.

My rating:
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Wednesday, April 29, 2015

Abandoned Blogs: Why Do They Exist?

"Embraced by Words" - Robbert van der Steeg via Flickr
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A once frequently updated, searched, and visited online journal, now left abandoned by it's creator. 


by El Jay Terry January 24, 2009
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When surfing across the web, occasionally I come across a brilliantly written post, look at the date, and then realize that the post itself dates back to the dawn of the Internet era.

A dead blog, long abandoned by the writer who once filled it to its digital brim with posts.

Arriving at a party that ended a week ago. All the commenter-guests have left to who-knows-where, and the author-host is long gone. Flat soda and soft potato chips (never doubt the power of preservatives) sit on the table, exactly where the everyone left them. I decide not to dig into a bowl of fossilized fast-food french fries. 

There is a camera. And within, there are pictures and videos. The party is over, but I can flip through the photos to see what everyone did. What everyone said.

Now--back to the abandoned blog. I decide to linger, scrolling through their posts to see what they were up to, when, and who they were.

...Why did they stop? 

Sometimes there's a single post within a year saying, "I'm not gone! A lot of things came up, but I'm still here!" and no subsequent posts after that. In the older blogs that once garnered an active community of commenters, I wonder if their regular readers waited for them to come back...or if life just continued on like always.

...Where are they now? 

I scroll through their posts, particularly during their most productive eras. A few tentative initial posts in 2009. Abundant--hundreds of posts in 2010 through 2012, tapering off into a mere 54 in 2013. The blog had its good run...until whatever fueled the initial creation of the blog ran dry.

The author ran out of ideas. This is particularly true with some informational blogs in fields that lack the constant new this, new that. I came across a treasure trove in the form of a well-written frugal living blog that featured tips on how to save money in many aspects of life. Eventually, the author must have run out of ideas, or found a different way to supplement her income.

The author ran out of content. This is true particularly in blogs birthed by grief or trauma, sustained by the process of the griever/victim sorting out their thoughts and questions in their minds, before ultimately moving on with their life and leaving the messy emotions behind in the form of digital bits and pieces floating across the web. Sometimes the blog author leaves a goodbye message to his or her readers. I like to think that they are in a happier place now, one in which they no longer have to use a blog as an outlet to deal with pain.

The author got bored. These "digital graveyards" are smaller, mostly because the blog never made it into a "golden era" of productivity and sharply tapered off after one or two initial, lackluster posts. I, too, have abandoned several blogs soon after starting them, especially if I realized that I didn't want to carry this through to the end. The commitment was too great for the amount of enthusiasm I had when creating the blog.

The author had other priorities. Probably the most common one that I've seen happen, particularly to myself and this blog. School happens. Work happens. Weddings happen. Sometimes there is a hiatus due to life-craziness-schedules-etc, which can span a few days to...a year. Life intercepts, whisks the author from the chair, and that's it.

The author found a new and better platform. Not sure if I'd count this as a digital graveyard because the author is continuing the same project, only in a different space. These aren't as sad because the original blog author usually leaves a link to the new and updated blog website.

I like to think that the original blog authors have moved onto bigger and better things. Meanwhile, the blog functions as a digital time capsule of who they were and the era that once encapsulated these people. Some of you reading may be blog owners yourselves. Have you ever deleted or abandoned a blog, and why? 

Interview with Marivi Soliven - Spooky Mo: Horror Stories

Marivi Soliven, author of Spooky Mo: Horror Stories. 
Spooky Mo: Horror Stories is a collection of nine short stories written by Marivi Soliven featuring women who deal with professional rivals, cheating spouses, domestic violence, and detestable neighbors. Marivi Soliven's writing captures the internal motivations behind each character's actions - their dreams, fears, and desires - ultimately humanizing the people who live in her stories.  

***Interview with Marivi Soliven - Spooky Mo: Horror Stories***

The Creation Process

The blurb for Spooky Mo: Horror Stories describes the collection as "giving a distinctly Filipino treatment of the Seven Deadly Sins." Tell us more about how each story in this collection is a Filipino treatment of the Seven Deadly sins. 
I would rather have the reader go through that exercise. The Seven Deadly sins hook was something that came after the fact, when all the stories had been written. I did not start writing them with the intent to portray each of the 7 deadlies.

What was the research process for these stories like? 

Minimal. For "Spooky Mo" I asked a professor friend who'd done research in Tokyo about the Japayuki and asked another professor friend about common Japanese surnames. Additionally, I looked up the phenomenon of vagina dentata after watching the indie flick Teeth. I actually went to that town in the Philippines where crucifixions are re-enacted, but as a tourist, not as a writer looking for short story material.

What role does the topic of domestic violence for women play in this short story collection? 

It's in the story about the little girl being abused by her father and in "Bangungot". I wanted to show how eventually, abusers get what they deserve, even if it has to come from supernatural sources.

The stories in this collection have also been described as "feminist horror stories". How do the elements of feminism intersect with those of horror in this collection? 
The fact that the aggressors were women? I don't know who described the collection as "feminist horror stories" but I never EVER start out thinking Well today, I'm going to write a feminist story. I avoid writing stories with a message. It's preachy and annoying.

Which elements from your life or surroundings have played a large part in the creation of your characters and their respective worlds? 

Every experience is fodder for story.

There is an emphasis on traditional comfort food, the roles of women in a patriarchal culture, and Catholicism throughout these stories. What made you decide to explore these aspects of Filipino society? 

Every experience is fodder for story. I happen to enjoy Filipino comfort food, I was raised in a Catholic patriarchal culture, so why not write from what I know?

Were there other topics that you aimed to emphasize in these short stories? 

The fun supernatural folklore stuff.

Audience

What audience did you have in mind when creating the stories? 
I never think of an audience when I write. If I did, I would be an advertising copywriter, which I was, before I turned to fiction.

What advice would you give a reader unfamiliar with the Catholic context and Filipino culture to help with reading and understanding the themes behind your text? 

Just go with the flow and read other books if you really want to learn more about Catholics and Filipinos. I write stories, not textbooks. 

Picking Favorites

If you had to pick a favorite story in this collection, which would it be, and why? 
That's like asking a mother to name her favorite child. 

Questions About Each Story ;)

Below, Marivi Soliven answers questions regarding each story in her collection:  

1. "Talanung Manok (The Defeated Cock)"


In "Talanung Manok", Socorro, a woman who has cooked for her husband's clients for years comes to suspect that he has a mistress when his appetites change. After her husband fatally crashes his car on a stormy night while speeding to his mistress, Socorro gets a young doctor to cut her a very private piece of her husband so that she could serve it to his mistress... eversokindly

I read that "Talanung Manok" means "The Defeated Cock". Why was the title in Filipino and not in English? 
Because Talunang Manok is the name of the actual Filipino dish.

How did you think "Talanung Manok" would be received by the audience?

That's not something I ever think about because how a reader "receives" a story is beyond my control.

2. "Child's Play"


Lizzie, a little girl who lives with her violent father, is invited to leave him and live with the Kabaan, a mysterious doll-sized culture that lives under the tree. This one's pretty cool. Check it out. 

Where did the concepts for the Kibaan (tree folk) come from? 
Philippine folklore.

3. "Manananggrrrl"


In "Mananangrrrl", witches separate their upper bodies from their lower halves when they go to feed. On the Wicca Watch talk show, a witch describes a gruesome (and hilarious) story of witchy rivalry between a slender witch and a heavyset witch. 

Was there a talk show in particular that you based this one? 
I am disappointed you didn't recognize Oprah. 

4. "Bangungot"


Rebecca has always carried the statute of Muniya, a voluptuous goddess who sweats ample amounts of sap. Muniya sees how Esteban, Rebecca's deadbeat husband, beats Rebecca. One night, after Esteban kicks Rebecca from the house and cuts up her green card, the goddess decides to intercept...

What does "bangungot" mean by definition? 
Nightmare.

The abusive husband is a common archetype used in your stories featuring domestic violence. From what sources did you draw inspiration and details for Esteban's character?

He is an archetype but also someone I have encountered over multiple calls for the National Domestic Violence hotline.

What is "binagoongang baboy"? Google translate: "baboy" = pig, but nothing for "binagoongang". 

Bagoong - shrimp paste. It means pork stewed in shrimp paste.

5. "Lost in Digestion"


Lola Ichay deals with an intrusive and close-minded neighbor by "killing him with kindness" in the form of her delicious traditional cooking. Nigel! Nigel! 

How does "Lost in Digestion" reflect your experiences in National City? 
It does not. It was inspired by a neighbor I detested. 

6. "Penitence" 


Magda and Tom visit Pampanga to witness Good Friday celebrations, which include the brutal reenactments of the crucifixion of Christ. Initially, Magda regards the acts of self-flagellation with disgust, but soon she surprises herself...

How did your own experiences with Catholicism (or religion in general) influence the details in "Penitence"? 
The repression, the endless cycle of guilt, the actual ritual of annual crucifixion in that small town. 


7. "Migrant Life"


Eulalia, a woman unable to communicate orally as a result of a stroke, lives a dull life in front of the television while her resentful children quarrel about who has to take care of her. One day, the characters in Desperate Housewives invite her into their world...

Why did you use the set of Desperate Housewives as the source of Eulalia's escape from her mundane, post-stroke life? 
Because I'd watched a couple of seasons and knew all the characters.

Which Deadly Sin is associated with Eulalia? 
Lust. 

8. "Consumption" or in other words, "Your Children Are Delicious"


In "Consumption" Guinevere Go and her father are the co-owners of a successful company of malls. Guinevere transforms into a giant snake to feed on children a few times a year, which causes her waistline to fluctuate dramatically, causing people to become suspicious...

Where did the idea of a person-snake come from? 
There is an urban legend in Manila that the daughter of one of the richest Chinese Filipino department store owners has a snake for a twin. 

9. "Spooky Mo" and spooky moles


When Rhacel informs her mother that she is going to Japan to be a dancer, her mother enlists the help of a toothy friend to protect Rhacel's dignity. Why, thank you, mother. Just what I needed.

What does the last line in this story, "Bilib ako sa iyo 'Day--ang s-puky mo" mean? I see the "Spooky Mo" part in it. Is it a pun? (Google translate offers something akin to "I believe you--it's the Spooky Mo!") 
Yes. Spooky = puki (cunt) + spooky (scary)+ mo (your). Figure it out.  

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You can find a more flattering spin of this interview published on College News

I was initially elated and just really happy to have interviewed one of my favorite authors. Then I read the tone of the interview from a more objective standpoint, and have since thrown away my fan goggles.  While my personal enthusiasm for her future projects has been altered by this experience, I still maintain that Marivi Soliven is a great writer, and recommend her works, especially The Mango Bride

Below are my reviews of her works: 
The Mango Bride
Spooky Mo: Horror Stories

For other interviews with authors, please click here 
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Monday, April 27, 2015

Spooky Mo: Horror Stories by Marivi Soliven


Spooky Mo: Horror Stories

Spooky Mo: Horror Stories by Marivi Soliven is a collection of nine short stories based on the Seven Deadly sins -- with a Filipina twist. In each of these stories, Filipino women from different walks of life deal with professional rivals, husband's mistresses, domestic violence, close-minded neighbors. Each woman has her own vices, which range from gluttony to pride, lust to envy.

Throughout this collection, we see the wrath that women are capable of, or as Marivi Soliven reminds us in the introduction, "how we members of the gentler sex can, when provoked, turn into genuinely scary bitches. Consider yourself warned." 

Each story features some supernatural element or another. In "Mananangrrrl", we have Wiccan witches who can detach the upper halves of their bodies from the their lower halves. In "Child's Play", a little girl is invited to live with the folk beneath the tree to get away from her violent father. The supernatural elements can be stripped away to reveal the inner motivations of each individual, from a young dancer disillusioned by the "entertainment" industry of Japan to a fresh widow who is filled with resentment and wrath towards her husband's young and attractive mistress.

As a non-Filipino with a non-Catholic background, I wasn't familiar with some of the words used in titles, but that didn't stop me from enjoying the stories, which provided more than the necessary context needed to understand the gruesome bits of each tale.

I loved all of these stories because even though it's inspired by a Deadly Sin, it was easy to connect with each of the characters--their aspirations, fears, and secrets. I read through one story after the next, thinking, "Oh, it can't possibly beat the story I just finished reading!" I was pleasantly surprised when I hit the last of the stories, "Spooky Mo", a tale with a guest appearance of vagina dentata.

Check out my interview with Marivi Soliven here. 

Monday, April 13, 2015

Interview with Michelle Perry Higgins: College Students and Money

Michelle Perry Higgins, Author of College Poor No More

Money. It means different things to people. Financial freedom. Material pleasures. A fleeting resource. Savings for our dreams. Investing in our future. Whether some of us grew up with a savings account or spent our allowances on snacks and indulgences, money is a resource that we all must learn to manage because it encompasses an essential part of our lives--now, and later down the road.  

When speaking with Michelle Perry Higgins, author of College Poor No More and financial planner at California Financial Advisors, I was struck by her charisma, warmth, and dynamic speaking style. From her voice, I could tell she loves what she does. She truly cares about educating people on how to manage their money.  

Below is a transcript of the insightful talk with Michelle Perry Higgins about the money saving concepts that she covers in her book, College Poor No More (click to see review)  

CN: Was your family frugal when you were growing up, or did you pick up these frugal skills later on in life?   
MPH: I grew up in what I would consider the middle income class, but there were definitely times where my family really struggled financially. At a very young age, I was very sensitive to my parents always talking about money and making sure that we lived within our meansI wanted to make sure that in my lifetime I would be helping people with money because of having to listen to that.   

CN: That's very relatable too. I read that you have two kids?  
MPH: I do! I have two little girls, and definitely we talk about money all the time and talk about budgeting and [whether] they can afford to buy certain thingsSometimes they say, "Mom, enough money talk!" but I'm hoping there is a balance there with what I'm teaching them and not overwhelming them. My little one, who is eight, really has a passion for money, so we've started to talk about the stock market. I taught her the other day what the euro was. One day, I hope she'll be in the office with me working here. We'll see though.   

CN: When are good money management habits formed in young people?  
MPH: It's really important that these habits are formed well before college. Unfortunately, what I found in research for this book is that students in college were never taught these good money management tips, and then it's way too late by the time that they get to college, to all of a sudden learn what it means to budget, to look at your bank account, or to learn opportunity costs.  
This book, the one hundred tips [in College Poor No More], really is helpful for those individuals who maybe feel like they're not equipped, or they need a refresher on what they can do to stretch their dollar.   

CN: Absolutely. This is one of the things that I wish my high school had a class on.  
MPH: Yup. It's so true. It's a must, and ultimately, if it's not taught, then it becomes a problem--debt accrues, or it becomes a big fight in relationships and marriages down the road. It's a ripple effect, and that's why I really wrote this book--to help students gain control of their finances before it's too late.  

I called [College Poor No More] the "bathroom book" because it's a small book, it's a 4 x 6" book. I want it to be thrown all over your college dorm or apartment. It's not something that I want you to say, "Oh my gosh, I gotta sit down and read another book!" It's not like that. It's something that you can flip through really quick while you're watching TV, and grab a few tips here and there.  

I want it to be a fun book with a lot of cartoons, so that it's not another thing that you have to add to your schedule. Did you find that it was pretty easy to peruse through?  

CN: Absolutely, the tips are pretty short, they stick to about one or two pages, and I love the cartoons. They were so cute.   
MPH: Oh, you did? Good, I'll tell my illustrator, I appreciate that!   

CN: Great! Why is debt during or after college a problem?   
MPH: Having student debt is not the problem. This book is not about me saying, "Oh, students shouldn't have student debt." I had student debt. I graduated from St. Mary's College with student debt because I couldn't afford to get through school without borrowing money.  

What I am trying to say is a problem though, is taking more debt than you need. If you only need $15,000 of a loan every year, don't take $20,000 if they're going to give you $20,000. Only take the $15,000.  

Don't borrow more money than you need to. That's really the bottom line: we don't need you to graduate with more debt than you're already going to have, because it's going to be hard enough already to pay back existing debt. So it's what I'll call the "bad debt".  

We don't want "bad debt" to accumulate in addition to the student loans that you're already going to have to take. And that's happening a lot, like, "Oh, I'll just put the money into my savings so that I have money to go out and go to a football game"...And that $10 drink and that $20 hamburger at the football stadium really adds up.  

Iyou don't have that money, maybe you'll drink that beer at your house before you go to the football game, which is a lot cheaper than spending ten dollars on a beer. It's little things like that where I really want to help students realize that there is that "bad debt" that we want to stay away from.   

CN: When I was in college, I kept getting all these credit card offers in the mail, and even on campus, they would have booths trying to sign students up. How can students avoid giving in to all these tempting credit card offers?   
MPH: They gotta just keep walkin'. [Laughs.] Ignore the free shirt, ignore the free keychain, the free this, the free that--nothing is for free when it comes to credit cards. So, learn to live on a budget.  

Learn to live within your means, then in your senior year, you can get a credit card. Then, by the time you do get that credit card during your final year of school, then you've got it all figured out! No one's going to want to have debt, it's like why have debt? I've already gotten used to living this cash poor life if you will. That really helps a lot of students, when they realize, "I don't need to have this debt hovering over my head."  

CN: Can you sign up for a credit card but not use it? Would that still affect your credit?  
MPHThe reality is yes. Students can get the credit card and not use it, but it's too tempting. So I wouldn't recommend that. A lot of parents do give their child a credit card that they've co-signed on, and I would prefer that situation much more, because parents can monitor how much is being spent. It's too darn easy to have a credit card and not use it when you don't have the good money management skills yet. We need to build up the skills first before you go and have that temptation.   

CN: What's the number one mistake that college students make when it comes to managing money? Would it be going into too much debt with credit cards, or something else   
MPH: A lot of students feel like they're in college, they're not really on their own yet, and they don't feel the need to take the time to figure out a way to stretch their dollar. A lot of this gets pushed by the wayside until they graduate. I don't want to say it's too late, because it's never too late, but they really do need to take the time to understand good money management tips while they're in college: to learn to live on 90% and save 10%, to never borrow, to check their credit once a year.  
All of these basic tips are very vital, so a lot of college students are making the mistake of saying, "Oh, I'm just so poor, money management tips aren't important to me now because I have none!" Well, yes, you do have money. You have allowances, you're getting student loans, and we need to learn to stretch that dollar.   

CN: How did you gather the money saving tips for the book?  
MPH: Because I mentor a lot of interns, I was lucky enough to have students that worked for me. I had them help me do a lot of research, and having that team of students who were set in school, they really helped me find the tips to be relatable to students.  
Hopefully when you read this book, you don't feel like I am preaching to you, I want you to feel like, "I can do this! She understands me," and that was with the help of my research and obviously having a whole team of students who helped me.   

CN: There was this tip in the book, tip #67, "Convince one of your roommates to get a dog instead." I laughed because I thought that was so clever, and also a bit evil, because it's like, persuading a roommate to get a dog so that they'd be facing the costs instead of you. Was there any context to this tip? Where did this tip come from?  
MPH: That one did come from one of my interns who, we were joking because he told me how everyone wants a dog on campus. Once you get off campus and have your own apartment, it's like the cool thing to have a dog!  

Then I said, "You know, let's do some research and really find out how much a dog costs." It was profound, I mean, it was thousands of dollars a year by the time you add up the cost of the dog, the shots, the food--animals are expensive.  

Yet we do want them, and it's kind of the first sign of independence, like, "I want a dog!" but for the time being, it's best to pass on that, because you need those dollars for other things, which are more of a priority than having an animal while you're in school. You're better off getting something that doesn't catch much. Like, get a fish. [Laughs.]  

CN: Exactly. [Laughs.] Less upkeep.  
MPH: Right. Right.   

CN: What makes this book, in particular, stand out from other frugal advice books?  
MPH: When I did the pre-writing of this book, I really went out to the market and said, "Okay. Is there a book like this on the market?" 

I didn't want it to feel like the other books that students are reading while they're in finance class, because I knew that it'd end up in the garbage. I wanted something that packed a lot of information in a small, compact way that was relatable. And there was nothing else on the market that I could find that was like this.  

I am really passionate about this because I mentor so many college interns. I really wanted to find a way to help college students gain control of their finances, and again, I just didn't see anything like this on the market.   

CN: What's the top tip that you can share with us today?  
MPH: The top tip...  

CN: ...You've given us so much.  
MPH: I know! The top tip...Which is the most important one? Well, one thing we haven't covered is professional matters. Making sure that college students graduate and find a great job includes getting them financially ready, and also getting them professionally ready.  

And I'm finding that a lot of students are not ready. They haven't had internships, they haven't joined clubs and gotten exposed to the outside world, or networked. They haven't taken their wild stuff off of social media.  

My greatest tip today is get an internship for the summer, one that is in your field or that you are passionate about, and put something that you're proud of on your resume. Because employers like myself want to see internships or good jobs on your resume.  

Here we are in the month of March, where everybody should be aggressively finding an internship for summer. Even though it's wonderful to sit on the beach, even if it's a couple hours a week and you have to go get another job where you're making a lot of money, get that internship.   

CN: Great advice.  
MPH: Because ultimately, that is going to relate to finding a job and making good money when they graduate to pay off their student loans, so again, the ripple effect.   

CN: Yes, absolutely. Build the resume.  
MPH: Yes!   

CN: And where can we get your book?  
MPH: If you go to Amazon.com, it is on there, you can pre-order [College Poor No More] on Amazon, or if they want to learn more about me, follow me on social media, you can go to my website, MichellePerryHiggins.com, and everything's on there.  

CNYou lead an interesting career as a financial advisor. How can we learn more about you and your work?  
MPHAlso on my website, MichellePerryHiggins.com, you will find that I have a Facebook page, I have a Twitter page, and so I'm very active on social media, and on the news, so there are a lot of different avenues to follow me. Or if students are interested in applying for internships with me, then they can send in their resume. I'd love to hear how everybody likes the book!  

CN: Is there anything I haven't asked you that you'd like to tell us?   
MPH: 100% of the profits are going to college scholarships, that's important to know. I really appreciate anyone who buys this as a college present, a graduation present for high schoolers, or for their college student, because all these profits are going back to raising money for scholarships.